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Tags: Motivation, Relationships, Stress.
By Bob Rausch, Ph.D.
You just left your boss’ office and were told you made a huge mistake on an important project. What you say to yourself walking back to your office makes a world of difference in your attitude, performance, and energy. Every thought you think and every emotion you feel requires energy. Cars use gasoline and light bulbs use electricity and your body uses an unlimited supply of energy we are all provided. How you choose to use your energy is up to you. The truth is that we drain more energy on mental and emotional issues than on physical ones. Here are seven rules that can help you maintain higher mental and emotional energy.
1. Practice the Universal One-Third Rule. Psychologist has stated that no matter what you do there is a One-Third Rule. One third of the people like what you do, one third doesn’t like what you do, and one third doesn’t care what you do. When working with people remember that, “People do things for their own reasons, not for yours.”
2. Define the Focus of Importance. When you are working with others get your focus very clear. Often times we spend too much energy worrying about what someone thinks of us. Keep the focus where it needs to be, on the other person. One way to achieve focus is to recite this statement; “It’s more important what I think of you than what you think of me.”
3. Depersonalize disappointments. This is about business, not your self-esteem. Life is not always fair, so love and help people, but do not allow them to define who you are or your level of success.
4. Reframe Energy Drains. No one can affect the outcome of your experience unless you let them. Nothing that is pushing against you takes effect UNLESS you push back. Reframe the situation by asking, “When you have an uncomfortable experience ask, ‘Is there something I can learn from this?”
5. Evaluate the Energy Drain. Did you hear something negative or did you take it negatively. Your level of energy will determine how you hear information. When you are low on energy you are more vulnerable to feeling defensive.
6. Delete clutter. Develop a behavioral trash bin. If it doesn’t teach or offer you something, delete it and send it to your behavioral trash bin.
7. Celebrate your successes. Don’t be modest. When you do well admit it to youself. Celebrations are energy refuelers.